August 30, 2006
Disclaimer: I aint having one. Right now.
Consider this scenario 1: You are single. You want to seek a relationship. So, you set some minimum standards before hunting for the right person. How do you set these standards? By comparing with your current position or set of mind, right? And then you start looking for someone who is of comparable standards, right? By standards, I mean maturity, sense of humor, opinion on living or spending, future course of life, education, decision-making, intelligence, blah blah. There are rare occasions where people seek for someone who is totally the opposite, but let us not consider the minority who have great amounts of patience (platonic). But primarily, one looks for a person whom you can profile, expect, know, sync with, understand, relate to, have similar frequency with.. right? So, basically you are looking for someone who isnt exactly your alter-ego, but almost you.. so you are looking for your lost narcisstic self, who is of opposite gender (or.. ah well!). You are looking for someone who would reciprocate your feelings in ample amounts.
Now, consider this scenario 2: You know such a person. This person could be your best-half (spouse), your best friend, your bartender or waitress (yes, this cashier at the coffee shop says “so one medium hot latte.. or wanna try mocha today??“.. she spoils the whole fun of me thinking or deciding on the kind of coffee I would have! she knows me so well..) who knows you in and out.. who counters your moves.. whose every move you are aware of.. where suspense is a bygone thing.. where you talk less because you know whats going on in other’s mind.. where the “zing” is lost.. where both concur.. on everything.. where both think too alike.. where conflict of opinions is rare because isnt that why you got close the first place? so what is the reason for you being in such a situation? because you know this person soooo well. Now, the reason you got close to him/her? It is Scenario 1. Now what holds the interest in the future? now, you are in a position where you cant stand another you!
So, this is a close-looped cycle, yet with gaping flaws in my arguments to prove it wrong. Prove me right/wrong. Because I am looking for your perspectives.
Life is like a brownian movement of particles, where every person gets a random to chance to prove himself.. It is about those chances..